From the front page of the Los Angeles Times 70 years ago today, Jan. 26, 1938:
Wives of Spanking Husbands
Form Girls’ Auxiliary to ClubSIOUX FALLS (S. D.) Jan. 25 (AP) — Wives of Spanking Husbands’ Club, organized in Sioux City, Iowa, and parent organization of fifty-nine such clubs throughout the nation according to its own figures–reached out for another slice of territory today.
The Iowa housewives who consider it a mark of esteem for their husbands to wield a disciplinary hairbrush once in a while, announced plans today for a junior auxiliary–Daughters of Spanking Parents.
ELIGIBLE GIRLS
A letter received here from Sioux City and signed “Rita Rae, general delivery,” told of plans for the new organization for which she claimed an initial membership of seventeen. Any girl above the age of 11 years is eligible to join, Mrs. Rae wrote.
“We think all parents should spank their daughters when they don’t behave,” Mrs. Rae wrote. “Some girls won’t admit it, but the really know it is better to get spanked than scolded and nagged. Spanking creates a better understanding between parents and daughters.”
MERELY SPANKED
Mrs. Rae is the president of the Wives of Spanking Husbands, which was organized last June 26 under the broad-minded slogan “Spare the hairbrush and spoil the wife.”
“Our husbands don’t beat us,” the Sioux City woman was careful to explain. “They just turn us over their knees and give us a good sound spanking.”
Okay, here’s what’s going on with spanking and the internet. It’s bigger than Experience Project and a lot older.
The short answer to the reporting and censorship you described on EP is that those in favor of women’s liberation want to hide the fact that men can control women by spanking them. Unlike boys, girls don’t get too old for an old-fashioned pants down over the knee spanking. It’s even effective with grandmothers!
Even worse for supporters of women’s liberation is the thought that a woman might actually want a man to spank her! About a quarter century ago, there was a failed attempt to have these women declared mentally ill.
At the root of the problem is a 20th century belief that men and women must be treated equally. That means if men can’t be spanked, then neither should women! Anything that threatens this idea either has to be silenced or pushed to the fringes. That’s how spanking became either abuse or pornography rather than disciplining.
My long time boyfriend spanks me for fun and for some more serious stuff like sitting in the dark at the lake or calling his bluff he generally only spanks with with hand which hurts but the stung doesn’t last long and I’m back at it sometimes I get the point for a while
My wife (6’2″ 190 lbs.) is much bigger, stronger and more dominate than me (5’10” 160 lbs.). She has no trouble womanhandling me. She took me naked over her knee for the first time on our wedding night and has been spanking me ever since.
Would like to find man for a LTR which would include him spanking me when I need it. Does anyone know where I can look?
1. Join Shadow Lane and use their ads
2. Try Craigs List Women seeking Men. You will have to do a lot of filtering here when you get replies.
3. I would avoid Fetlife.com Why? Most people are into much more bizarre stuff than spanking.
My other half of many years has spanked me , for reasons such as Attitude, and more serious things like sitting by the lake alone in the dark makes him very upset, He starts his spanking 10 or so clothed then pants down and finished bare, the heat of the spanks doesn’t last long an sometimes right back at the attitude , sometimes I am good for a month .
@ Penny, thank you for your reply. I did put an ad on CL. What a joke these men are. “I’ll come over right now and discipline you.” Or they don’t even live close to me.I will probably try Shadow Lane for a month. Wish me luck!
p.s. I envy all the women on here who have found a wonderful man to take care of them.
Don’t put the proverbial cart before the horse. To establish a long-term relationship, first find someone interested in YOU rather than just seeing your bare bottom over his lap. Any many unable or unwilling to care for you as a person isn’t worth having around!
Find someone you can talk to. Communication is paramount is establishing a healthy long-term relationship. Sharing as well as listening are equally important. Explore a wide range of topics. Look for compatibility.
In the background, think of the initial conversations as a job interview. The woman is the perspective employer. The position, pun intended, is someone literally in her pants! Therefore, a woman should trust her gut instincts. She should be choosy. Likewise, she should learn from her mistakes and move on. As the old expression goes, she may have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding a prince.
Next, understand spanking is merely a small component holding a long-term relationship together. Spanking is a lot like sex in that there is more talk about it than actually doing it.
One simple test: Every woman knows there comes a time when SHE knows she needs her bare bottom soundly spanked. Is the man is able to pick up on her sometimes subtle signals? Is he willing to do what SHE knows needs doing even over her objections?
A woman’s reward for being spanked is feeling clean inside. When this happens, she knows her man cares. In turn, she will love and respect him. Otherwise, if he simply spanks her so that he can have his way with her, she is used and abused.
I would love to find a man that enjoys spanking his women. I haven’t been able to find a man with the take charge attitude and the intimidation..
My other half spanks me, when I get to mouthy, and rude or participate in something that HE considers not safe like sitting by the lake alone in the dark out on the rocks … Then it’s upstairs , bent over 10-15 warm up pants down 10-15 on panties then 10-20 bare it stings for a good half hour .. He keeps saying you won’t be able to sit for a week lol I call his bluff
You’d better get her permission in writing, preferably before getting engaged, next best before the wedding, or if you later agree that you should spank your wife when she is:
Disobedient
Disrespectful
Lazy
Lies
Wastes money, even if she earned it. All earnings go into a common treasury.
Refuses sex without a good reason (on period, sore from morning’s sex, just gave birth – “headache” is no reason as sex usually will cure a headache; “tired” is no reason since even if she really is, all she has to do is lie there or kneel: you do all the work; mediocre sex is still pretty good), especially using sex to try to coerce you
Gets drunk
Uses vulgar language/swears. Says “f**k,” a word that should never cross a woman’s lips as it denigrates a holy act between a man and a woman
Backtalks/sasses
Speaks disrespectfully of you to others, especially to her girlfriends
Commits adultery (isn’t a good hard spanking better than divorce or stoning?)
Slow getting you another beer
Starts getting overweight (you’d better keep yourself in shape, buddy – why should she get turned-on by a beer gut on you?)
Won’t get off Facebook
Doesn’t greet you at the door when you come in after a hard day’s work
Doesn’t have your supper hot and ready when you get home – if you come home at a regular time, otherwise, in a half hour; we do have microwave ovens now
Spies on you, sneaks into your wallet, cellphone, email – don’t ever give her a valid excuse for distrusting you
Fails to discipline disobedient, disrespectful, sassing, comes home late, etc. child
I love the thought of being spanked by your lover. Sadly I have no one to spank me. :”( I hope soon I find “the one” 🙂
Hi, my name is Tan, I am 42 years old I usually get a sound spanking when I am argumentative, rude, or talking back, Attitude is huge for me. My last spanking, he took me down stairs bent me over the couch and slapped my bottom over my jeans while telling me my misbehaviours, then instructed to pull off the jeans and did another 10-15 smacks, and when I laughed he took off my panties and smacked fast and hard for the last 20 ouch that hurt, the burn only lasted a few hours , he threatens you won’t be able to sit for a week, I would love to call his bluff
If you’re like most wives with an untamed disposition, you need to be paddled or spanked with a belt rather than spanked with your husband’s hand. Of course, you’re not going to tell him that; and, if he’s like most young men these days, he won’t be able to figure it out on his own.
Nietzsche clearly understood the female psyche when he advised, “When thou goest to woman, take thy whip.” It is a lesson men of every generation have to discover for themselves.
While women hate tyrants, they eventually despise men unable to handle them.
Tan, I wish I could tell your husband how to spank properly. He should take you over his lap and uncover your bottom, and spank soundly with a leather paddle or wooden ruler or sturdy hairbrush. Then, when your bottom is really tender, continue with his hand at length and finally make you thank him for the spanking.
Women can often explain these things better to a man than can other men. The advice is also more believable coming from a woman. Listening to women is how I first discovered much of what I know about disciplining the fairer sex.
My man spanks me when I grab his butt. For example, I’ll grab it like once or slightly hit it once,and he will take all my clothes off. Then, he bends me over standing up and starts to spank me like 20x or more. The other day he told me to wash the dishes, and I said no. He took all my clothes off and held my left arm, and started spanking me with his belt. He made me do the dishes naked, then he told me to go to sleep when I was done. I did everything he told me. I sure learned my lesson.
Would love to share or talk about domestic discipline. I spank my wife regularly. And our relationship is so much better. We rarely argue. And the stress in our lives had all but disappeared.
A funny thing happened on the way to the 21st century. Western men forgot how to spank their girlfriends and wives! Perhaps not coincidentally, divorce rates took a decidedly upward turn after spanking got lumped in with abuse.
So, why did this happen? The answer in a single word is equality. Here’s the dirty little secret behind husbands spanking their wives. It’s something feminists have tried desperately to suppress.
The issue is not and never has been about spanking. Rather it’s about maintaining the illusion that men and women are just alike and, therefore, must be treated exactly the same way regardless of circumstances. The thoroughly politically incorrect explanation for why this legal fiction runs afoul of nature begins with puberty.
With the onset of puberty, boys begin to react differently to being spanked than they did just a few years earlier. As testosterone starts to dictate male behavior, boys treat being spanked as an attack. Consequently, they rebel if their parents continue routinely spanking them into their teenage years.
On the other hand, estrogen does very little to affect the female response to being spanked. Both teenage girls as well as their mothers tend to blame themselves for having to be spanked.
While spanking children and spanking wives is presented as two different things on the internet, it’s really a continuum for females. That’s why there some truth to the old feminist rant about marriage merely being an institution that transfers authority over the woman from her father to her husband.
Put another way in the days when marriages were expected to be lifetime partnerships, the woman went from being subject to being spanked by her father to being spanked by her husband.
The above explains why parents still willing to spank their teenage daughter report similar outcomes to husbands daring to spank their wives. Both find their “relationship is so much better;” they “rarely argue;” and “the stress in [their] lives” is relatively low.
Once the disciplinary veil is lifted, much of the mystery concerning why a husband spanking his wife can dramatically improve their marriage suddenly disappears. Furthermore, spanking wasn’t invented yesterday.
Since men spanking women has been going on for eons, most probably beginning as part of a fertility ritual, there is a very real possibility that, perhaps quite unconsciously, women still prefer men able to dominate them.
However, being unable to have her mating needs fully met by the typically timid husband produced by modern society, today’s woman goes in search of another. This, in turn, explains the current propensity for cohabitation as well as tenuous marriages and subsequent divorces.
I have always fantasised about being spanked by a woman. I eventually got married for love. About two years in I asked my wife to spank me as I was being tempted by ads and I didn’t want to go outside the marriage for sex which spanking was for me. Amazingly she did it and has said she is comfortable with it. Wow that was amazing to me and still is. I didn’t marry her for it but was rewarded and am still being.