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More Links on Work-Life Balance

15 Feb 2018 /

Research behind the flexibility stigma (Article)
Tara Siegel Bernard, “The Unspoken Stigma of Workplace Flexibility,” New York Times, June 14, 2013.

Don’t become addicted to busy-ness (Article)
Christine Carter, “Achieve More by Doing Less,” Mindful, September 14, 2015.

Research about dual-centric workers (Report)
Families and Work Institute, Catalyst, and the Boston College Center for Work & Family, Leaders in a Global Economy: A Study of Executive Women and Men (2008).

Work-life integration (Video)
Stew Friedman, “How to Integrate Work, Home, Community and Self,” YouTube video, 19:53, posted by “KnowledgeAtWharton,” May 28, 2008.

Managing your life outside of work (Article)
Stew Friedman, “Keep Your Home Life Sane when Work Gets Crazy,” Harvard Business Review, February 23, 2015.

Research supports benefits of flex work (Article)
Adi Gaskell, “Why A Flexible Worker Is A Happy And Productive Worker,” Forbes, January 15, 2016.

Five simple tips to reduce the distraction and temptation of checking email all the time (Article)
Lily Herman, “How to Actually Stop Checking Your Email All the Time,” The Muse.

Does guilt have to be a part of flexible working? (Article)
Georgina Kenyon, “The Curse of Flexible Work,” BBC, September 9, 2016.

Work stress:  cultivate resilience (Article)
Judy Martin, “5 Daily Rituals to Manage Work Stress,” Forbes, December 26, 2012.

Making the most of your time (Article)
John Rampton, “15 Ways to Increase Productivity at Work,” Inc., February 4, 2015.

Unplugging: Tips on setting boundaries on work communication (Article)
Alison G. Walton, “Feeling Overconnected? 5 Reasons To Unplug From Technology After Work,” Forbes, February 6, 2013.

Some Links on Work-Life Balance

8 Feb 2018 /

Carol Bartz discusses the myth of work-life balance (Video)
Bartz Says ‘Work/Life’ Balance is a Myth,” Wall Street Journal, May 1, 2012.

Beyond policies: Office culture must change (Article)
Susan Dominus, “Rethinking the Work-Life Equation,” New York Times, February 25, 2016.

The problem may be long hours not work-family conflict (Article)
Robin Ely and Irene Padavic, “Work-Family Conflict is Not the Problem: Overwork Is,” Huffington Post, November 6, 2013.

Managing work and life is an increasingly global problem (Report)
EY, Global Generations: A Global Study on Work-Life Challenges Across Generations (2015).

We know flexibility works, the challenge is execution (Article)
Stew Friedman, “‘Having It All’ Is Not a Women’s Issue,” Harvard Business Review, June 26, 2012.

The best way forward (Article)
Gigi Liu, “From Work-Life Balance to Work-Life Integration– The New Way Forward,” Entrepreneur, March 31, 2016.

When and where you work is increasingly the norm for many professionals (Article)
Laura Vanderkam, “Work-life Balance is Dead — Here’s Why That Might Be a Good Thing,” Fortune, March 6, 2015.

Key benefits for work place flexibility for managers (Report)
WGEA, Briefing Note: About Workplace Flexibility (May 2015).

How to understand and request flexibility at work (Report)
WGEA, Employee Flexibility Toolkit (May 2015).

Guide for companies (Report)
World at Work, Seven Categories of Work-Life Effectiveness: Successfully Evolving Your Organizations Portfolio (2011).

Stories with insight into the new global workforce and the case for flexibility (Report).
Emily Cohen, Liz Mulligan-Ferry, and Jan Combopiano, Flex Works (Catalyst, 2013).

Updates on the most recent research on the economics of flexible workplace practices and policies (report).
The Council of Economic Advisors, Work-Life Balance and the Economics of Workplace Flexibility (June 2014).

HR Council for the Nonprofit Sector (website).
Workplaces That Work: Flexible Work Arrangements

A few pointers to manage career success and a positive personal life (article).
Christine Riordin, “Work-Life ‘Balance’ Isn’t the Point” Harvard Business Review (2013).

Thinking about a post-balance world (Article)
Balance is Bunk,” Fast Company, October 2004.


It Was a Very Definite Thing

28 Jan 2018 /

It was a very definite thing within myself, that happened, that I allowed myself be so open, and let my defenses down enough . . . it was almost as if, I’d got to the point . . . of no return . . . and I thought, “I’m going to go for it.”


Something Terrible Would Happen

23 Jan 2018 /

It sounds a little bit strange but the idea that something terrible would happen . . .

I feel something here . . .

Something over here . . . It’s like a pressure . . . on my heart.

It’s pushing, it’s like it’s pushing.

And it hurts.

Something is pushing there, it hurts.

Sadness, there’s a lot of sadness.

I don’t want to feel it.

Something is pushing there, it hurts, there is sadness, and there is something that doesn’t want to feel it.

I don’t want to feel it . . .

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This is My Year!

17 Jan 2018 /

My dad is 82 . . . he says he always thought that someday he would get everything organized and under control but it never happened.

That being said, I feel like this is the year I get everything organized and under control . . .

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Integrity and Self-Respect

13 Jan 2018 /

Forgive yourself for your mistakes and embrace yourself with all your character traits just as they are, believing that you’ve done the best you could with your available resources in the course of your life . . .

Likes and Dislikes

18 Dec 2017 /


Dogs, books, spicy food


Systems of thought that reduce the richness of human lives to impersonal laws, systems and numbers. Oxford commas.

Dog and books

The script of life is so unspeakably beautiful to read because death looks over our shoulder. — Martin Buber

Notes on Existential Well-Being

16 Dec 2017 /

I’m taking an online class on existential well-being . . . posting some notes and thoughts:

Well-being implies physical health, comfort, pleasure.

It is also essential for human beings to have relationships with other people and to have a place in society.

We speak of personal well-being when a person is able to develop their talents and feel at peace with him or herself.

Beauty, compassion, truth, love — these are experiences of the “life force” or the “spirit.” In these spiritual experiences we transcend our limited self. We become part of something bigger and participate in universal qualities that nourish and enhance life.

We are conscious of the physical, the social, the personal and the spiritual dimensions of human experience. We make no hierarchy between these dimensions.

We recognize that human life is also characterized by suffering, pain and many limitations. We acknowledge that because of limitations, we are challenged to use our full potential to realize our physical, social, personal and spiritual existence in our given situation.

All the Elements For Your Happiness Are Already Here

8 Dec 2017 /

Be yourself.
Life is precious as it is.
All the elements for your happiness are already here.
There is no need to run, strive, search or struggle.
Just Be.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Crossing the Border

11 Nov 2017 /

It takes so little, so infinitely little, for a person to cross the border beyond which everything loses meaning: love, conviction, faith, history. Human life — and herein lies its secret — takes place in the immediate proximity of that border, even in direct contact with it; it is not miles away, but a fraction of an inch.

Cross to Bear

9 Nov 2017 /

We are nailed to ourselves. Each of us is our own cross to bear.


Tom Petty, 1950-2017

2 Oct 2017 /

In December 2016, Tom Petty talked with Rolling Stone about his then-upcoming 2017 tour, which just ended last week at the Hollywood Bowl here in Los Angeles:

I’d be lying if I didn’t say I was thinking this might be the last big one. I have a granddaughter now I’d like to see as much as I can. I don’t want to spend my life on the road.

Sad, as President Trump would say. Big life events can kill you . . .

RIP Tom Petty

10 Reasons That NY Times Chart Might Not Mean What You Think It Means

14 Aug 2017 /

From the New York Times:

  1. Money is not the only metric for measuring life outcomes. Charts and articles like this seem to reflect an inappropriate obsession with narrowly materialist values.
  2. If you do want to measure your life with money, it looks like the 99th percentile is where you want to be. Why aren’t you there? Why aren’t you a CEO? Why aren’t you making a million a year? If you can’t figure out how to get there, don’t begrudge the people who did figure it out. If you don’t have the education, motivation, intelligence or skills to get there, don’t begrudge those who do.
  3. The amount of wealth is not a fixed amount. It’s not a zero-sum game. If it were, it would be concerning that a few people are very wealthy. But it isn’t.
  4. The distribution of income has to be skewed to the right because income is bounded on the low end by zero but not limited on the upside.
  5. If you can’t imagine why income inequality exists, consider that 25 percent of Americans think the sun goes around the earth.
  6. If you can’t imagine why income inequality exists, consider that half the residents of Detroit can’t read.
  7. People who get upset at the realization that some other people have more than they do make excellent targets for politicians who promise, in return for your vote, to rob the people you envy.
  8. Winners may have more money but losers get more hugs.
  9. I see a lot of articles about income inequality but I don’t meet a lot of ordinary Americans who are concerned about it.
  10. There seems to be a confusion of cause and effect. Did income rise the fastest for people in the top one percent or did people get into the top one percent because their income rose the fastest? If that isn’t clear, consider an example: Did Mark Zuckerberg’s income go way up because he was on the right side of that chart or is he on the right side of the chart because his income went way up?

Cocaine, Heroin, Ecsatsy

22 Jun 2017 /

In case you hadn’t noticed, being alive is difficult and probably overrated. Why not take all the drugs you can?

Just playing devil’s advocate here . . .

The Blindness and the Wretchedness of Man

8 May 2017 /
Blaise Pascal

When I see the blindness and the wretchedness of man, when I regard the whole silent universe, and man without light, left to himself, and, as it were, lost in this corner of the universe, without knowing who has put him there, what he has come to do, what will become of him at death, and incapable of all knowledge, I become terrified, like a man who should be carried in his sleep to a dreadful desert island, and should awake without knowing where he is, and without means of escape. And thereupon I wonder how people in a condition so wretched do not fall into despair. I see other persons around me in conditions of a like nature. I ask them if they are better informed than I am. They tell me that they are not. And thereupon these wretched and lost beings, having looked around them, and seen some pleasing objects, have given and attached themselves to them. For my own part, I have not been able to attach myself to them, and, considering how strongly it appears that there is something else than what I see, I have examined whether this God has not left some sign of Himself.

— Pascal, Pensées

I wore the mask as long as I could . . . I wanted to take it off but everyone thought it was my face.

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Chuck Barris, 1929-2017

22 Mar 2017 /
The Gong Show Chuck Barris 1976.jpg

Chuck Barris was well ahead of his time in recognizing how many Americans are willing to make an ass of themselves on television.

The quote below is from the movie based on his book Confessions of a Dangerous Mind. I don’t know if the quote is actually in the book but I include it here nonetheless . . .

When you are young, your potential is infinite. You might do anything, really. You might be Einstein. You might be DiMaggio. Then you get to an age where what you might be gives way to what you have been. You weren’t Einstein. You weren’t anything.

That’s a bad moment.

RIP Chuck Barris

Keep the Channel Open

6 Mar 2017 /
Martha Graham

Martha Graham, 1948

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium, and be lost. The world will not have it.

It is not your business to determine how good it is, nor how valuable, nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours, clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.

You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urge that motivates you.

Keep the channel open.

In a Flash

11 Nov 2016 /

In a flash you could walk by your true love or miss your path in life, and you’d never have the chance to recover it . . .

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